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The Power Of Saying “NO”
Have you ever found yourself hesitating, biting your lip, battling the urge to just say, “NO”?
Why is it that such a simple little word causes such a big problem? Is it our societal compass that has a tendency to point us towards agreement, acceptance, and acquiescence or something else.
I remember it was a long time ago, that I was standing outside the doorway of a very popular restaurant in one of the country’s largest cities. As I was standing there, I noticed a young man in a wheelchair selling roses. Just then two young women exited the restaurant, as they passed by the young man in the wheelchair, he asked them if they wanted to buy a rose. One of the women immediately replied with a stern ”no” and kept walking.
The young man, not about to give up easily responded with a “why not” … at which time one of the women turned saying “ I don’t have to tell you why “ and continued walking.
I’ve never forgotten how hearing a simple throwaway line gave me the answer to what can be a very perplexing problem.
We can get into the deep weeds of misplaced guilt seeming from the fear of disappointing others or the false belief that prioritizing oneself is selfish but it’s really quite simple. We Have The Right To Say NO.
You have the right to put your needs first. You have the right to set boundaries, even when we risk disappointing others.
We have the right to say “NO.” It’s a complete sentence, it requires no explanation, it’s your choice to make.
Think about it: why is saying “NO” to someone else’s idea of what you should be doing so difficult. We have the right to say “NO.” It’s a complete sentence, it requires no explanation, and it’s your choice to make.
Any explanation offered will result in you having to sell the reason you have for saying “NO.”
Realize that saying “NO” is the ultimate self-care. By saying “NO” you’re embracing a bigger “YES” inside
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
- Q: Isn’t saying “no” often seen as rude or selfish?
A: While societal norms sometimes label it as such, it’s essential to differentiate between being selfish and prioritizing oneself. Saying “no” is about self-preservation and ensuring one’s well-being. - Q: How can I say “no” without feeling guilty?
A: Guilt often arises from internalized beliefs or fears. Recognize the source of your guilt, challenge these beliefs, and remember that prioritizing yourself is both healthy and necessary. With practice, the associated guilt will diminish. - Q: How can I handle pushback or pressure after saying “no”?
A: Stay firm in your decision, and remember that you don’t owe extensive explanations.
